Living in Retrospect

I’m not sure how it works for a woman but it feels like most older men I talk to their perspective on life is addressing success and failure through looking back, not engaging the present. They say things like, I should have worked less and spent more time with the kids, or, I didn’t see this event coming and I should have changed things earlier. Or they talk about the good old days….

To be honest it feels like a cruel joke. Its like saying you wont feel 70% of what you are going through until you are on the other side. Or maybe that is the challenge of life, living in the present, feeling what is going on right now.

And maybe that’s where listening to older men comes in. They now what they have missed out on, or capitalized on. So why not listen to them? I know we rarely do, but maybe its time to stop and listen.